Well, guess what? Today I could tell you that I am really feeling the same way. Another court date, another continuation…will it ever end? Even my husband’s attorney came back and said that she and her attorney are being nothing but vindictive. And guess what, there’s nothing we can do about it.
These situations are made that much harder when your 8 year-old starts asking questions about his brothers’ mom and why they stopped coming to visit when he was 5 except on special occasions. I am caught between wanting my little boy to just be a little boy and telling him the harsh reality of what happens in a lot of situations when a couple gets divorced and has children. I owe him the truth and explain it to him as simply as I am able. Of course, any person with a heart would feel disdain towards this person who has tried to make our lives miserable, so when your 8 year-old says he doesn’t like her, what do you do? I asked him “Why?” And he came back with, “I just made up my mind I don’t like her.” I tried to explain to him that you can’t just go around not liking people and that is not who he is. You may not like what they do, but you can’t put it on the entire person. His face was still fixed and his mind was made up. The only thing that made him soften was this question, “How would you feel if one of your brothers said that they didn’t like me?” His eyes got big and he said, “I wouldn’t like it.” I am hoping that he will think about this a little bit since I will have to revisit it next week. That’s when we will probably see her for the first time in 3 ½ years....
